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Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Fri Oct 09, 2009 7:31 pm

I read this and thought I should share it .....

5 Steps to Your Ideal Type Attract your best mate by Christina Julian

Is your ideal "type" tall dark and handsome... bold and beautiful... bad boys or vixen girls? Find out what type actually works for you.

Have you ever been told that you don't know what's good for you?

Whether you've heard that tune from doting friends, not-so-helpful family members or your nagging inner voice, it's time to get serious and determine if they might be right.

1. Take inventory
Start by taking a mental inventory of your relationships. Develop a list of your greatest love affairs -the ones that kept you flying high, as well as the ones that brought you your lowest lows. It's very likely that the people on your list will have done a little bit of both.

Once you have that completed (it doesn't need to be all-encompassing) go through your inventory, person by person. List the characteristics that initially drew you to them. It can encompass basic physical attributes such as long flowing hair or steely blue eyes - and it should also include personality traits such as a tendency to be the life of the party, a strong-and-silent streak, humor, a nurturing quality, and so forth.

2. Be reasonable
Next, write a short reason as to why each relationship ended. Perhaps their "life of the party" ways were what drew you to them, but ultimately became the reason you went your separate ways. Be cautious not to drive too far down memory lane. This process is meant to help you to move forward, instead of beating yourself up over the past.

3. See your patterns
Take a look at your list, and pay attention to trends and repetition around the types you've been attracted to. It will illuminate what your type is (maybe you know, but have been afraid to admit it). More importantly, you will have insight as to whether your type has served you well in the past. Maybe yes, maybe no. Perhaps you simply feel like you need to shake things up. It may be time to shift your consciousness, and maybe attract someone who's not your usual type.

4. Hello, new love life!
A key step in beginning any journey is to admit that you're ready to start fresh. Your first step down that road is to set a shift in motion by creating a new intention. Let's say that after years of financial woe you decide you want a partner who is as financially aware as you are. You need to affirm that this is what you seek - and then you will communicate your intention to others.

5. Map out meeting spots
Since you're charting new territory, you will want to explore new venues. Let's say you are interested in meeting an intellectual equal, rather than the party-hounds of your past. While bar- and club-hopping might have served you back in the day, it may not keep you on your new path. Do a little digging to locate some outlets where you are more likely to meet brainiacs (at the library, during a lecture series, at an adult education class, etc.).

So step forward and open up your mind and heart - to all your new possibilities and directions.
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Tue Aug 10, 2010 12:12 am

I'm looking for insight, coments, experiences etc in the following area

SOUL MATE VS TWIN FLAME

I have heard different comments would like to see what others think/know too.
Seems that Twin flame is a "new" word of the month to some or something.

What do you think/know?
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Tue Aug 17, 2010 10:17 am

Well from my understanding, soulmates are from your "soul group" the pod which you belong to with others. These persons are with you throughout your incarnate lives either as friends, mates etc... with a twin flame or twin soul..they are the other half of you, the mirror image of yourself. It is also said that you have not had many lives with your twin because you have to balance all your karma between you before you can be together in your last incarnation together. Most tend to be each others guide while the other is in a physical form. If you are lucky to be with your twin flame it won't be an easy ride, there will be many obstacles and challenges in order for you to be together...Ultimately you may go your separate ways until the next lifetime.

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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Wed Aug 18, 2010 11:26 pm

Is it possible for one half of the Twin Flame/Soul to know "who" they are and the other half not too?
It wouldn't be so bad to go on to another life time if you were the one who didn't know but in the next life time could it be the reverse and you know and they dont?

Intersting ....
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Thu Aug 19, 2010 10:26 am

Yes definitely..the one who is oblivious probably will have an easier time of it for the time being. For the one who knows it can be very painful to know who this person is to them and have circumstances come against them. They can't be together for whatever reason. I have noticed that more and more people are meeting or are with their twin flames presently. Does that mean that something is up in the spirit world? Or are we just more aware?
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Thu Aug 19, 2010 11:03 pm

I met a woman this summer who from how she discribed things met her twin flame and married him.

back ground
Female .... moved around a lot as a child, wanted stability and married fairly young and started her family, things did not end happily ever after (stupid Disney!)
Male .... sounded like he lived in the same area most of his life, got married, started a family .... and as above stupid Disney!

Present
Female ... was doing well with her life, her business was picking up, she was social networking (SN) more and had joined a SN and was reconnecting with old friends from all the previouse places she had lived.
Male .... noticed that on this SN they had many friends in common but he couldn't remember her so he sent her a message.

They started messenging back and forth and became friends.
She had a business trip to the city he lived in. She had been seeing a fellow who shortly before this trip broke up with her and she has an extra ticket to this dinner/dance part of the trip. When she was commenting to her new friend that she had this ticket .... even though she didn't really invite him he said SURE I would love to take you.

Turned out to be a fabulous first date and then the phone, texting, messages etc stated and when they were together
When he was asking her to marry him he drew a picture that she instantly recognized as when they lived in the same city and attended the same school briefly ~ this cartoon character that he drew was the only thing that made her smile at that time.
She was living in this city at that time for health care access for a parent with Cancer.

They have many problems in the last yr but are so amazing together.
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Mon Aug 23, 2010 11:31 am

That's amazing! They are so lucky to be together in this life and hopefully any obstacles that they have encountered lately are things they can overcome. It can be very painful to not be on the same page as your twin knowing what you do. All you can really do is let them figure it out on their own and not force things to happen. Sometimes circumstances such as family, distance or other things keep them apart and it feels like it will never happen. It's just one of those things that you have to gain lessons from I guess.
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Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Tue Aug 24, 2010 8:34 pm

I think I'd like to look at that lesson book .... how many do we need to learn? lol

Its good to see good things happen to others and I wish that couple all the best. Its funny how some people you can just see the connection happening.

I think things are changing at a rapid pace and its cause and effect are affecting everyone
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Wed Aug 25, 2010 12:59 am

It IS nice lol....however I have to wonder why are many of us encountering our twin flames lately and why does there seem to be a need for us to connect. Could it be the impending 2012 and the changes that are occurring? From what I have read about twin flames is that when they come together for their last incarnation, it's for a very important spiritual mission. So is there something very important in the works in the near future?
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Thu Sep 02, 2010 8:14 pm

Something seems to have been in the works for a while and many seem to be awakening.

I saw this and just wanted to share it:

Your divine mate is seeking you and you can only meet divinely.
~ Jewel Diamond-Taylor

Your divine mate already exists. You ae bing prepared to meet one another. Through your many growth experiences, and the purpose that is etched in your soul, the day will come when you will meet face-to-face. It will be crystal clear that this person is the right one. She will not need fixing. He will not require work. You will be rouched in a place in your heart and soul that, unti; tha divind day, has been untouched. As you allow yourself to accept the reality that your divine mate exists, it will unfold as a reality to you. You can stop looking, forcing and trying to make it happen. You need not fret or worry or allow yourself to be lonely, because your divine mate already exists. You can stop looking out for him or her. Instead, spend your tme looking within. When you get to the place in yourself that is peaceful divine love, your true mate will be revealed.

My divine mate will be revealed to me in the divine way at the divine time
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Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Sat Sep 11, 2010 12:25 pm

Psychic Word: Soulmate
by Justine McKnight

There are many theories as to what exactly Soulmates are but in essence, the term Soulmate refers to one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.

Many believe that soulmates are two people (regardless of age and sex) who have spent many lifetimes together through reincarnation. This could refer to a loved one, child, friend, or parent. Others believe soulmates are two people drawn together by fate and that being with our soulmate is not something of choice. Believing you are with your soulmate often comes from experiencing "love at first sight."
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Sat Oct 16, 2010 11:59 am

I was checking out books about twin flames on Amazon...this review caught my eye. It is extremely insightful:

When we are born it begins a journey. Along the way on this long winding path we eventually end up seeking many things. One of which is love. In the beginning, it is from our Mother & Father, then our family, community and so on. Eventually, assuming everything goes right, we begin to find we have a void within us, which other forms of love can't seem to fill.

We have all known loneliness, a dark emptiness within our soul which seems to stretch for an eternity. We feel like we are apart of nothing, just drifting aimlessly upon the sea of humanity with no destination, nor land in sight. At times despair is like our wet clothing as we shiver cold and alone in the darkness. To distract ourselves we dream of "The One" and how they will lift our spirits and take away the emptiness, this absence of life.

For some, eventually someone comes along and brings light to this darkness. But as humans, sometimes we are by this time so starved to be "touched" that we unknowing make compromises which, if we were rational we would not make. Thus the saying. "Blinded by Love ". Because, of these compromises, we may never find our true predestined love.

Many of you now, are not in a twin soul or at least in a soulmate relationship. The truth is you got tired of waiting and you settled for the best "offer" at the time. This was your choice, and now is your Karma. But in your heart, in your soul, you know if someone is your Soulmate or twin soul , for it goes beyond just love. It is a form of joining.

When you meet your twin soul this person will have an instantaneous effect on you. A twin soul is someone who makes your knees go weak and you want to catch your breath. With but a single glance they lessen your burden and but a smile, warms your heart. You will feel a sense of connection ( affinity ) with this person. They will touch you so deeply on so many levels, you will want to share your inner most secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel like almost like a god. Once you have met your twin soul for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.

One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is to be and that you've been together before in a past incarnation. Normally for some, it is several months, weeks or days before physical intimacy (sex) occurs. But when you meet your twin soul something happens, the pull or drive to become physically intimate overwhelms many, and one finds it happening basically in the initial meeting. There's a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses as an empathic like bond is formed. Unlike other relationships, in the past, there will be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.

Sometimes the best way to find something, is by not looking for it. With this in mind, you probably will meet your twin soul when you're not looking. Since life revels in making things difficult, you'll probably meet them in the morning when your on the grave yard shift. For many it will be after a bad relationship or several bad relationships. For some it would be when they are already in a "good or committed relationship". If you're lucky you won't have to wait until your 50 to meet your twin soul. But if you do. well at least you'll appreciate it's significance more, than someone in there twenties. You have had the benefit of experience, the perspective of age and the knowledge, such love is once in a life time.

The point here is "Serendipity", so forget about taking that "Singles" bus tour to the Circus. Sure you'll meet a lot of nice people and perhaps you really should get out, but just be prepared to ..Well, meet some real clowns.

The universe is a funny place, don't be surprised if your twin soul is older or younger. Twin soul don't care about age. How much older or younger ? From my observations, expect years like 7 to 20. In a true twin soul relationship it won't matter, if anything it will make you stronger. Life is not neat, nor has it ever been. So why should it start now ?

There is something about the Passion you share with an twin soul. It goes beyond just " body parts". For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies meld and you feel the flame of creation move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summers day. Soon you begin to lose track, of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your raw passionate union, your twin soul will know how and where to touch you. It will be different, intense and more gratifying than lovers of your past.

They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the "Rush". All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your soul like captives from a prison. At this moment you will know what it means to get lost within someone's eyes. You will experience a touch you have never felt before and your lust will rise to new levels.

To put it simply, your twin soul will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match.

It is within our nature as human being to mess things up. The very thing which makes twin soul love so special, is the one thing which can bring it down. The simple fact is, the unparalelled love & passion is terrifying to many people.

We learned how to have relationships from our parents or primary giver. If your primary givers relationships were dysfunctional, then chances are so are yours. There are many people in this world who in relationships maintain an extreme amount of emotional control. They take pride in the fact that their partner is madly in love with them. By being able to "wrap them around their finger" they feel safer. Thus, all their relationships become based on this pattern. Then one day their twin soul comes along and wham!. Quickly they discover the control over their heart and the relationship is gone. Now they must relate on a level playing field, and for many, they run.

For those of you who are runners let me tell you what you already know. It doesn't work. You can move to the other side of the planet, marry someone else and fill up your spare time with some cause. But the simple truth is, your twin soul will be there in your soul. No matter how hard you try, no matter how busy you make yourself, everyday they will enter you thoughts. So then many try and have sexual affairs with others. But that doesn't work either, for it becomes just sex and as you lay there afterwards you will feel empty and cheated.

A good measure of this is a simple test. After you have just made love to the person who you are using as a safe substitute, do you find yourself wanting to "get away" from them? When you were with your twin soul, didn't you feel the need to remain close, to pull each other tightly and melt into each other? That's the difference....and one which is very hard to hide from yourself.

If you run, then you've made the conscious choice to doom yourself and the other person to be haunted for the rest of your life. Sure, you may eventually fall in love with someone who fits your preconceived image or expectation (cute, rich or successful) of what your partner should be. But as time moves on...you never forget, you always wonder and then you eventually regret. I have a saying:

The twin soul relationship is worth putting up a fight, but there comes a time when you have done all that you can do..and you can do no more. At some point, the one who runs has to choose to stop and come to their senses. Life is sadly cruel, just as it is grand. Short of burying your child, losing your twin soul is indescribable anguish.

It is like having your tender soul ripped from your body. You feel lost, abandoned and betrayed. There is a sense of panic which permeates your very being and personal existence. You find yourself saying, "never again". You did something you had never done before, you willingly let another in....all the way.

Eventually, after the shock, the depression comes, then the anger and then you just want it all to end. You wish you could just stop feeling...but you can't. And no matter how much you drink, smoke or eat, you can't make the pain go away. Yes, regular love hurts too..and badly. But when you lose your twin soul, no matter how enlightened, wise or talented, in both will and spirit you are...it is devastating.

Many of us sadly, fail to recover and we truly never "Love" again. Those who are really weak, try to kill themselves. Be it with a car speeding on a wet winding road after drinking, or "J" walking on 42nd street, to just taking one too many pills. The end result is the same if we succeed, suicide is suicide whether you leave a note or not.

In the end, we don't even want to see the person, because that just tares open the wound over and over. Right or wrong, that's just the way it is. Eventually, you go on with your life and you stop hating them...because like you...they will never forget either.

Every now and then life gives us a happy ending. Sometimes, after trying to get their twin soul out of their minds, the "runner" comes to realize what they had lost. A few are wise enough to do whatever it takes to correct the situation and get back into their twin soul's arms. Hopefully, not enough time has gone by so that the situation is salvagable. But oftentimes it's not. All I can say is TRY. With twin soul there is NO pride, and there CAN be forgiveness. We are destined to meet our twin soul, what you do after that is "your" choice.

We are born into this world alone and we begin our journey. Few are lucky we find the right partner, "The ONE" along the way. With this person we grow, learn and experience the wonders of human existence. They become part of us, as we become part of them. Eventually, our journey must end as we were born to die, alone. But in between these two points we hopefully have learned, experienced and gained some wisdom with the chance to pass it on.

As I walk my chosen path I say to those of you who shall follow me, this is but one part of the road which lay ahead of you.

In my lifetime, I found my twin soul. I know the joys, the exquisite highs and the sense of oneness, completion and peace. Yet as we turn the coin on the other side, I also know the ongoing torment of losing one. I hope you never have to find out how it feels....to lose part of oneself. But if you do, know this: "You will survive. Your life will never be the same, but given enough time you will survive" At such a moment, you are not able to see that way. Once you do survive, the choices, good or bad, are your responsibility...and life will be what YOU make of it.
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Sat Oct 16, 2010 12:09 pm

My question is...with the "runners" in your twin flame relationship..how do you balance the negative karma between each other to bring balance in this lifetime?
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Tue Nov 09, 2010 1:29 pm

So have you figured this out?
The wiser the soul .... the greater the simplicity.

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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby Sarahangel » Sun Nov 14, 2010 8:20 pm

Somewhat lol.... I think that in reality you have to look within and find the answers...trying to force or make your twin be with you is fruitless if they don't want to. I think all you can do is send love and light to them often to let them know you are with them and allow the fear to dissipate between you. If they are runners and afraid it is perhaps the negative karma that still is between you,,,there needs to be balance. I have absolutely no idea how to go about the balance end of things but I do know that having hope and faith that it will all turn out is comforting enough for me.
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Re: Attract your best mate

Postby BelieveinUnicorns » Wed Nov 17, 2010 6:53 pm

Amen!

Focus on balancing your karma cause if your connected they should also e balancing their own too.
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Postby Sarahangel » Sun Jan 16, 2011 1:08 am

Trying not to lose faith that this will happen
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